Recommend Meitu’s Pinterest, how to rely on machine learning to attract attention?

Recommend Meitu's Pinterest, how to rely on machine learning to attract attention?

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Pinterest, which has 100 million monthly active users, is increasingly relying on machine learning to help uncover new internet insights.

Users around the world visit Pinterest to explore, save, and share photos and articles. Help users find content they love, and users will naturally be retained: 30% of interactions on Pinterest and 25% of Pinterest internal purchases come from Pinterest-recommended content. To recommend the right content, Pinterest uses state-of-the-art, data-driven technology and conducts a lot of experimentation.

So how does Pinterest use machine learning?

Mohammad Shahangian, lead discovery science engineer at Pinterest, said: "My main job is to find a way to solve the content discovery problem. We experiment with very small changes to the algorithm, and every attempt has an improvement or a downside."

Exclusive advantage: based on interest

Recommend Meitu's Pinterest, how to rely on machine learning to attract attention?

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In fact, this is not unrelated to the characteristics of Pinterset: one of its strengths is that Pinterset is a community built around users’ interests, and users will sort the products, articles, and images they find on the Internet by interest.This means that instead of guessing a user’s interests by clicking patterns or time spent on a page, as other social networking sites do, Pinterest can directly use algorithms to measure the relationship between 75 billion entries in its database that are likely to be grouped under the same interest.

"Many companies try to derive user interest from inputs or signals," says Mr. Shahangian. "But on Pinterest, users clearly signal what they are interested in."

Users who visit Pinterest continue to add to the social landscape of users, collected items, and favorite boards. This data allows Pinterest to provide more accurate content for user homepage feeds, search results, and related content recommendations. Recommendations based solely on what users care about are not ideal, and recommendations for similar content are easy to repeat.

For Mohammad Shahangian, "If you collect one kitchen sink, should we recommend more sinks or something that will make your kitchen look new?"

Constantly testing in practice

To make these decisions, Pinterest engineers experimented with a variety of machine learning algorithms. They studied how well these algorithms worked on related and unrelated items, and how they affected the active levels of real users.

Mohammad Shahangian said: "We do experiment directly on Pinterest, but a lot of times we do a lot of preparation before experimenting."

Of course, there is no way to know whether a user will like the new recommendation without conducting actual testing. "I can’t pay someone to tell me whether a user will like the new recommendation," says Mohammad Shahangian. But by studying whether the content recommended by the algorithm will be classified as an interest by real users, it is relatively reliable.

Previously, Pinterest changed the message flow on the user’s homepage from purely chronological attention to the user’s message, to an algorithm-generated message flow, which increased the user’s active level by one-fifth to one-tenth. Subsequent algorithm improvements will bring additional improvements.

"Pinterest has come a long way throughout the improvement process," says Mr. Shahangian. "Personalisation has greatly increased user engagement rates."

Improved image search function

Pinterest has also been improving image search to help users better find similar images. Pinterest engineers worked with researchers at the Vision and Research Center at the University of California, Berkeley, to develop the technology. It now uses deep learning algorithms to automatically identify objects in images. This way, users can click on those objects to find relevant items in Pinterest.

Dmitry Kislyuk, a visual search engineer at Pinterest, said: "This is not a classification algorithm to distinguish between cats and dogs. We want to find similarities between images in real time."

He says the visual search tool works well for finding home decorations and fashion items in Pinterest, and in the future Pinterest hopes to improve its auto-sorting function to better serve other search needs, such as helping users find new recipes that are similar.

Speaking about using deep learning to classify images more efficiently, Pinterest visual search engineer Andrew Zhai said: "I think our model will become more semantic and better."

While Pinterest engineers focus on perfecting object recognition and search, they also plan to develop an app that will allow smartphone users to photograph real-world objects and then get recommendations for related items on Pinterest.

"The field of deep learning, computer vision is very exciting right now," says Mr. Kislyuk. "The world is changing so fast that top technologies change every two months."

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Overburning ~ "the hometown of football"

The football field is full of smoke.

Competing for the best in the world.

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文 | 舒冰雁

Why alpine skiing?

  Why do delegations with few people prefer alpine skiing? Is the threshold of this project low?

  Haiti, Philippines, Ghana, Ecuador … … At the opening ceremony of the Beijing Winter Olympics on the evening of the 4th, people found that some countries or regions with hot impressions also sent delegations to participate. Most of these delegations have only one or two athletes, and almost all of them participate in alpine skiing. Some netizens laughed and said: Alpine skiing is the biggest "winner" of the opening ceremony.

On the evening of February 4th, the opening ceremony of the 24th Winter Olympic Games was held in Beijing National Stadium. Sarah Escobar (middle), the flag bearer of the Ecuadorian delegation and alpine skier, is the first female athlete in the history of Ecuador. Xinhua News Agency reporter Huang Zongzhi photo

  The question is: Why do delegations with few people prefer alpine skiing? Does this project that sounds very imposing have a low threshold?

  Snow sports with the largest number of registered people in Winter Olympics.

  If we give an imprecise definition, alpine skiing is faster than the one who slides down the mountain. Without somersaults and obstacles, we just need to turn, and whoever gets to the end of the mountain first wins.

  Kang Hua, the international referee of the International Skiing and Mountaineering Federation, said that skiing started as a mode of travel in snowy areas such as Northern Europe, China and Xinjiang, which was highly practical but hardly entertaining. At the end of the 19th century and the beginning of the 20th century, the center of skiing shifted from Northern Europe to the Alps, and modern alpine skiing technology was developed in the cross-country skiing prevailing in Northern Europe. Later, all the patterns and variants of snowboarding can be said to be branches of alpine skiing. The snowboarding that beginners learn in the snow field is also the basic skill of alpine skiing.

  Therefore, in skiing, this project and cross-country skiing are well-deserved basic projects, but they are more interesting than cross-country skiing, and the mass base is easier to develop and consolidate.

  In this Winter Olympics, there are 307 athletes registered successfully in alpine skiing, which is the largest number in snow sports and second only to ice hockey in 15 disciplines. Athletes cover more than 80 countries and regions.

On February 3rd, the first training of men’s downhill skiing in Beijing Winter Olympics was held at Yanqing National Alpine Ski Center in Beijing. The picture shows Italian player matteo Marsaglia in training. Xinhua News Agency reporter Chen Yizhen photo

  This is largely due to the IOC’s intention to improve the participation and coverage of winter sports through this project, and its quota allocation rules are relatively loose. All delegations have two basic places, one man and one woman. As long as someone meets the requirements for Olympic points, delegations can get these two places. After the allocation of basic places, the rest will be produced from the world’s high-level athletes according to a series of rules.

  Speed events are still high threshold.

  Then the question comes again: If I come from a tropical country, the Winter Olympics is coming, I urgently find a ski resort to train hard, get points for participating in the global competition, and finally get the basic quota allocated by the International Olympic Committee, then can I participate in all the events?

  Can’t. There is a high probability that you are only qualified for slalom and giant slalom. Gliding and super slalom are almost impossible.

  In this Winter Olympics, there are 10 events for individual alpine skiing. Men and women are divided into downhill, super giant slalom, giant slalom, slalom and all-around. The all-around ratio is still downhill and slewing, so the four events, such as downhill, are the basis of the alpine skiing Winter Olympics.

  Among them, downhill and super slalom are called "speed events", and slalom and slewing are called "technical events". The International Snow Federation has higher requirements for the venue of speed events, with long track and large drop. In the men’s downhill, which can be called the "Flying Man Wars" in the snow, the track gap should reach at least 800 meters and the length should be at least three kilometers. The top speed of athletes can even reach more than 140 kilometers per hour.

  This leads to: first, it is difficult to find such a standard snow trail. The speed track of the National Alpine Ski Center in Yanqing Division is the first track in China that meets the standards of the Winter Olympics. In some areas where mountain resources are not abundant, even if it is cold enough, if the mountain is not high enough and the mountain is not big enough, there is no way. Second, people who are engaged in the project are difficult and dangerous, and have no training conditions, and they can’t meet the winter Olympic competition standards for speed projects in a short time.

On February 1st, the National Alpine Ski Center in Yanqing District of Beijing Winter Olympics held an all-factor drill. The picture shows a skater trying to skate on the track. Xinhua News Agency reporter Lian Zhenshe

  "The International Snow Federation requires higher points for the speed events of the Winter Olympics than the technical events, just for safety." Didier Defogo, the designer of the men’s downhill track in this Winter Olympics and the champion of men’s downhill in 2010 Winter Olympics, said. Jamaican alpine skier Benjamin Alexander also said: "Even if there is an indoor ski resort, it is impossible to build a ski trail that can support downhill training."

  In this Winter Olympics, there is only one athlete, and 15 delegations of this athlete participated in alpine skiing events. Without exception, they all participated in slalom and giant slalom. In addition, the experience of British player Dave Reading seems to prove that the flexibility of training in technical projects can be higher. He has been training in the indoor snow field, but at the age of 35, he still won his first men’s slalom World Cup sub-championship, and he is a strong contender for the medal in this Winter Olympics.

[China Graduate] China Renmin University: Learning to "govern the country" in practical training.

Practical education is an important way to cultivate talents. Postgraduate training units around the country have actively explored and worked hard to develop, and combined with the characteristics of disciplines, majors and regions, they have formed a number of brand projects of practical education, and trained a number of outstanding talents who can be of great use and shoulder heavy responsibilities.

2023年12月12日,由教育部学位与研究生教育发展中心指导,《中国研究生》编辑部、全国高校研究生党建和思想政治工作联盟、洱海流域农业绿色发展研究院联合主办,中国农业大学、云南农业大学支持,以“在学习与实践中成长”为主题的“研究生成长与发展研讨会(2023)”在云南大理洱海流域农业绿色发展研究院召开。

会上,中国人民大学、中国农业大学、复旦大学上海医学院、华中师范大学、湖南师范大学、西南交通大学等校作主题发言。《中国研究生》特刊出相关文章,以利实践育人工作经验的交流与借鉴。

(中国人民大学“治国理政”计划二期研究生在山西长治实岗锻炼)

2022年4月25日,习近平总书记在中国人民大学考察调研时强调,要坚持扎根中国大地办教育。中国人民大学牢记嘱托,坚定不移地走好建设中国特色、世界一流大学的新路,着力构建实践育人体系,积极引导广大青年全面深入贯彻习近平总书记“用脚步丈量祖国大地,用眼睛发现中国精神,用耳朵倾听人民呼声,用内心感应时代脉搏”的殷切嘱托,在行走中国大地的生动实践中深刻体悟中国式现代化的伟大成就,努力成长为德智体美劳全面发展的社会主义建设者和接班人。

China Renmin University’s "Governing the Country and Politics" on-the-job training program (hereinafter referred to as the "Governing the Country and Politics" program) aims at cultivating "governing the country and politics" talents, combines students’ ability training with internship and employment, and combines serving students’ growth with attracting talents and talents from local areas, and strives to build an interactive platform for two-way understanding and two-way selection between students and central state organs, local party and government organs, central enterprises and local enterprises and institutions, so as to effectively build a real link between students and society. Guide students to understand the working mode and specific requirements of party and government organs, enterprises and institutions, consciously combine their personal ideals with the needs of the country, adhere to the concept of "integrating knowledge with practice", temper the political character of "taking responsibility for others", exercise the power of governing the country, and strive to grow into a new generation worthy of the heavy responsibility of national rejuvenation.

Since its inception in 2022, the project has been carried out in two phases, and students have been organized to go to Ningde, Fujian, Zhengding, Hebei, Minning, Ningxia, Lankao, Henan, Jinxian, Jiangxi and other places for 6-8 weeks of on-the-job training, and 176 graduate students have been trained.

First, carry out the plan of "governing the country" under the guidance of thought.

(A) adhere to the "education for the party, education for the country" initial intention.

Carry out the correct political direction and value orientation throughout the whole process of postgraduate backbone education and management, persist in inheriting the red genes, continue the red veins, pay attention to improving political judgment, political understanding and political execution, and concentrate on cultivating talents for the party and the country. First, strengthen political orientation in the registration and selection process. Pay attention to comprehensive quality, make overall consideration of the political consciousness, scientific research progress, comprehensive ability and employment willingness of graduate students, and give priority to students with rich social work experience and outstanding student leadership who are willing to work in grassroots party and government departments after graduation. The second is to adhere to the principle of "matching people with posts" in the post arrangement. Considering the students’ professional background, research direction, career planning and the situation of the post-setting area, we should fully communicate with the responsible units related to on-the-job training to determine the job position, clarify the job responsibilities, formulate the training plan, and establish a two-way work assessment system between the on-the-job unit and the project team to ensure the training quality. Third, pay attention to the feedback of project effect in the final evaluation. Improve the evaluation system and carry out the evaluation of the results of the project, including the appraisal opinions of the on-the-job training units, the self-evaluation questionnaire of project members, the publication of on-the-job training results, etc. Pay attention to the comparison before and after, test the students’ indicators before the project starts, compare the scores before and after the project based on the evaluation indicators, observe the changes of students’ comprehensive quality, especially their political literacy, cultivate the ability of graduate backbone to see things politically, and comprehensively improve their political literacy.

(B) adhere to the "meet the needs of the development of the cause of the party and the state" orientation.

Focusing on the needs of the development of the cause of the party and the country, we will establish a full-chain talent training mechanism of "learning, research, refining and understanding", which integrates course training, discussion and exchange, practical training and experience summary. The first is "learning", carrying out course training and strengthening knowledge reserve and work cognition. Invite experts, scholars and grassroots alumni inside and outside the school to share their experiences around the topics of clean politics, official document writing and official etiquette, so as to help students enrich the theoretical knowledge of social governance, enhance their understanding of China’s administrative system and national conditions, and enhance their public service capabilities. The second is "research", organizing discussion and exchange, and gathering experience and wisdom. Organize students to visit Jinxian, Jiangxi, Changzhi, Shanxi and the grass-roots public departments in Beijing, organize seminars regularly in groups, sum up learning experience, exchange learning experiences and carry out scenario simulation. The third is "refining", carrying out on-the-job exercise and practicing excellent skills. Students go to local governments, enterprises and institutions at the grass-roots level for practical training, accept the grass-roots experience of "real knife and real gun", observe, experience and analyze the operation mechanism and management mode of party and government departments with their own eyes, accumulate vivid experience and temper their excellent skills. The fourth is to "realize", sum up experience and improve the effect of educating people. A research group is set up by individuals or teams to encourage students to carry out special research and form research reports based on their actual work experience. The project team is connected with the National Development Institute and the First Academy to promote students’ participation in the research work of school think tanks.

(3) Adhere to the goal of "cultivating a large number of high-quality talents with both ability and political integrity"

Adhere to moral education, implement the whole process of training and guidance, and strive to cultivate new people of the times who are responsible for national rejuvenation. At the beginning of the project, the old students served as counselors for the new students, playing the role of "mentoring", guiding the students to be familiar with the project, giving full play to the autonomy of the students, and realizing self-management and self-education. During the practice period, the on-the-job unit designated a special person as a grass-roots tutor to be responsible for the training and assessment, and the school organized colleges to go to local places for mid-term visits in batches to communicate with local organizations and receiving units to fully understand and guide the students’ work. After the exercise, summarize excellent reports and training cases, do a good job in publicity and summary, evaluation and commendation, and do a good job in tracking training and service guidance; Attach importance to the cooperation between schools and places, build a talent training base together, maintain the continuity and long-term nature of the project, and enhance the comprehensive influence of the project.

Two, with the effectiveness of the project, service personnel training and local economic development.

Since the implementation of the "governing the country" plan, it has achieved remarkable results in practical education and played a certain role in promoting the high-quality development of local economy.

(A) to guide students to strengthen their youthful ideals in grassroots experience.

The first is to truly enter the grassroots. Students have experienced the transformation from "students at school" to "people’s public servants" in practical work, and have a detailed understanding of how to "manage politics" in specific work such as rural revitalization, industrial development and grassroots party building. The second is to help improve quality. Through interviews, conflict mediation, theoretical preaching, report writing and other ways to gain insight into social conditions and public opinion, grasp the pulse of the times, and achieve an all-round improvement in comprehensive quality. The third is to guide firm ideals. By going deep into the grass roots, practicing deeply, and savoring the "ups and downs" of the grass roots among the masses, the students have accumulated valuable work experience, further strengthened their determination to serve the country and contribute to society, and better defined their future career development plans.

The evaluation results show that all members have gained different degrees of positive feedback during the on-the-job training. Nearly 90% of the students said that the experience of participating in the "governing the country" project is of great help to their career planning, and their personal horizons have been greatly broadened. About 60% of the students said that this experience has further deepened their understanding of the theory they have learned.

(B) to promote the deep integration of theoretical teaching and practical education

Grassroots is the best classroom, and practice is the best teaching material. The program of "Governing the Country and Governing the Government" allows the project students to walk out of the ivory tower and go to the grassroots level, to weather the storm, see the world and strengthen their bones and muscles in the "melting pot" on the front line, and to truly understand the national conditions, social conditions and people’s feelings in the "social classroom". In the fields of rural revitalization, in the front-line posts of party and government services, the project students sink into the front line in the actual post exercise, practice, stand with the people and work together. Take root down, find real problems based on grassroots reality, seek upward, and give full play to professional advantages to solve practical problems. Students turn the facts at the grass-roots level into first-hand materials for academic research, and write the research results as answers to the times to improve people’s livelihood. They really study problems and real problems in grass-roots practice, lay a solid foundation of knowledge, practice excellent skills and temper moral cultivation in discovering, studying and solving problems, which effectively promotes the deep integration of theoretical teaching and practical education.

(三)挖掘实践成果助力地方经济高质量发展

习近平总书记寄语广大青年要“同人民一道拼搏、同祖国一道前进,服务人民、奉献祖国”。学员在基层岗位上接受基层实践导师的指导,主动接触地方发展战略,关注地方发展难题,利用自身专业优势,积极为地方发展建言献策,助力地方经济高质量发展,让青春在奋斗与奉献中绽放绚丽光彩。“治国理政”计划项目成果丰硕,其形式包括工作报告、工作手记、课题研究、数据收集、宣传报告、调研走访等,内容涵盖信用评级、普惠金融、共同富裕样板村、文明城市建设、文化产业推广、纪检督察、综合治理、案件审理、党建、宣传等工作。多个项目成果被地方政府采纳,多地发来感谢信肯定同学们的工作与付出。

项目学员工作期间的署名报道刊登在学习强国、新华网等主流媒体,工作事迹及座谈会发言等被《光明日报》《新京报》《福建日报》等媒体宣传报道。

三、以坚定步伐,优化“治国理政”计划育人模式

未来,中国人民大学将持续优化“治国理政”计划育人模式,推动实践育人体系走深走实。

First, improve the collaborative linkage mechanism between schools and localities. Coordinate the mobilization of social resources, optimize the multi-level and multi-form cooperation mode, further build a comprehensive practice base to meet the needs of students’ "national conditions practice, academic practice, ideological and political practice and employment practice", build a bridge for students to approach and serve the grassroots, and promote resource sharing, talent co-education, mutual promotion and common improvement between schools and places.

Second, strengthen the promotion mechanism of practical achievements. Strengthen the propaganda of typical tree selection for outstanding students, and tell the story of "governing the country" program students exercising at the grassroots level. We will promote the exchange and mutual learning of practical experience among colleges and universities, focus on refining the experience and practices of the "governing the country" plan, and strive to build a leading benchmark practice brand that is dynamic, long-term, accessible and can be promoted for colleges and universities across the country.

Third, continue to improve the practical education system. Adhere to the "five educations", comprehensively build a training system with the characteristics of the National People’s Congress, which is suitable for improving students’ social research ability, gather the majestic power of "educating people for the party and educating people for the country", take the plan of "governing the country and governing the country" as an important starting point to implement practical education, promote the organic integration of the first classroom and the second classroom, further guide students to combine theory with practice in practical training, practice excellent skills in grassroots experience, temper political character, and strive to cultivate people who are worthy of the heavy responsibility of national rejuvenation.

(The original text was published in the November 2023 issue of China Graduate School. )

Original link:[China Graduate] China Renmin University: Learning to "govern the country" in practical training.

Encouraging women to be "independent" is also a kind of violence.

Unexpectedly, today we met a guest who was lying flat.

I have always encouraged more women to move forward boldly, hoping to record the precious "step forward" taken by those professional women, so as to inspire more ordinary you and me and pick up the courage to move forward.

As the book "Step Forward" says:

Women are not without leadership, but afraid to let go of their dreams. As long as they boldly sit at the table,Participation can bring about change.

But this time, our guest Zhang Chun said that the word "step forward" made her have to be alert-

Is it wrong for a woman to stand still, lie down and cry, and not take a step forward?

Is there only one way for women to move forward?

This is an opportunity for us to collide.

Who is Zhang Chun?

Maybe many people know her because of an advertisement.

She talked about the "double bondage" of secular views on women:

You should have a career, but not too much;

You want to be beautiful, but loving beauty too much is vanity.

It seems that everything women do is wrong.

Source: Polaiya

She is a writer and a psychological counselor, and this kind of gender observation comes from her work.

Because the ratio of male to female visitors is about 1:9, a vivid sample of women shows her that there is a kind of depression called "Female depression”。

Walking as a woman for 40 years, her own experience made her realize a truth:

Men and women do not live in the same world."

I’m curious, in the wave of encouraging women to go up, why did she loudly say "women can stand still and cry while lying down"? What kind of female world does she see?

Based on this, I had a two-hour conversation with Zhang Chun.

I hope this article today can give you a new perspective and a healing massage.

The following is Zhang Chun’s self-report.

Two gender situations

Step forward?

Now that I hear this, all my alarm bells ring.

Everyone is telling women to move forward, to succeed, to stand up, to become professional women … to stand up, does that mean that it is wrong to sit, squat and lie down?

Any suggestion contains a hidden word, which is "should".

"You should …" We’ve heard so many words.

But I think, instead of telling women "how to make progress", telling women "You have the right to make any choice."The voice is even rarer.

But we need such a voice, instead of finding fault with women again.

Source: TV series "Big and Small Lies"

I am 40 years old this year, and I may have experienced a proposition for the first 38 years of my life:

What the hell am I suffering from?

How did this pain happen? How to describe and describe it? What do they have in common with women and what are their differences?

And why are men so different? How is his coolness cool? What’s his pain like? How is it different from mine?

These doubts come from what I see every day.

For example, if you see such a news-The 70-year-old woman picked up garbage in the middle of the night and was chopped many times. She died on the spot.

What will I notice?

I will notice that this is a woman, a woman who was killed outside in the middle of the night. I can’t help but substitute myself and I will be afraid.

But if the news describes it this way—The man committed a crime at 3 am and was arrested and brought to justice in less than an hour.

The subject changed from a murdered woman to a punished man. I don’t immediately feel "I’m in danger", but I know that criminals will pay the price.

But the news you usually see is almost always the former narrative.

Source: Network

I can’t name the specific news that scared me, but when a woman grew up seeing such news subjects and narratives, she naturally knew:

The world is dangerous, I have to be careful, be careful.

This is women’s daily life, and many women have been looking for an effective strategy to protect themselves in such a threatening atmosphere all their lives.

We are afraid that the courier will see that there is no man at home. Girls who live alone should hang some men’s clothes on the balcony and put a pair of men’s slippers at the door … These self-protection skills are being learned by girls since childhood.

According to my observation, all women have the ability to automatically distinguish "what I do to make others comfortable and what I do to make others uncomfortable".

They will automatically know what they can do to be safer and not put themselves in danger.

Source: TV series "Big and Small Lies"

Maybe you always think that you live in the same world as men, but this is not the case.

The world of women and men has its own narrative. The huge difference in logic determines that what women and men see is an absolutely different world.

The narrative of the female world is: I can’t do anything until I am allowed, and it is repeatedly and explicitly allowed.

The male narrative is: I can do anything until I am stopped, and it is repeatedly stopped until I pay an unbearable price.

A typical example is Wang Sicong’s bitter pursuit of Sun Yining.

Sun Yining has told Wang Sicong many times that he is not interested in him, doesn’t want to see him, and doesn’t want to be his girlfriend, but Wang Sicong seems completely inaudible.

It was not until Sun Yining exposed the chat record and tore her face that Wang Sicong realized that she was really boring to herself.

It’s not just "Wang Sicong". Most men around ordinary women are like this.

I met one on the Internet. I scold him and blacken him every day, but he can still find me again in various ways.

I said there was no possibility with him, but he said:

"I think we are very likely, because you don’t scold others, you only scold me like this. This is a preference, and you can’t have no feelings for me."

I’m really amazed.

Source: TV series "My Genius Girlfriend"

This is indeed the case in men’s world. It is all "I can" until the unbearable price is stopped.

Women are cautious, and they are all "I can’t" until they are explicitly allowed.

The difference between the two kinds of thinking fundamentally leads to two completely different gender situations-

You have your mountain, I have my disaster, and both men and women are trapped in their respective genders.

Twisted women

One day, I saw a poster on the wall of the hospital, which read:

"Pain relief is the basic right of patients."

This sentence triggered an earthquake in my heart, which made me feel so fresh.

I have been suffering from various chronic pain diseases, but I never thought that I could have the right to ask for no pain.

If pain relief is a basic right, can women’s menstrual pain be exempted?

If exempting dysmenorrhea is a basic right, then why do all women tolerate it as usual?

So that when it comes to dysmenorrhea, someone will say, "Drink more hot water and just bear it."

Why are there so many patients with dysmenorrhea, but there is no special treatment department?

Even why does it seem to many people that even childbirth, which is extremely painful to the mother, should be, must, can’t complain and don’t have to be exempted?

I suddenly realized that these are all violence, telling women that your feelings are not important.

There is more common physical violence, which is the humiliation of women’s body, appearance and sexual value.

"You shouldn’t be so fat."

"You should be whiter."

"If you want to wear this underwear, it will look fuller, and if you wear that one, it will look thinner and colder."

……

All these are telling women that your body doesn’t belong to you.

Although I began to consciously use the gender perspective in these three or five years, understanding the differences between the two sexes began when I knew I was a girl, and even then I didn’t necessarily have memories.

I believe other women are the same.

At the moment you were born, the doctor picked you up, patted your ass and said, "Wow, it’s a big fat son" or "it’s a little princess".

At that time, the response from all the people around you was already educating you about gender.

Some fathers saw that it was a girl and fainted on the spot; Some mothers immediately shed tears and said, "What a girl!".

Whether she is an expected child or not, girls can realize it subtly very early.

When they grow up, adults teach their children to know their own bodies. When they see the little boy, they will say:

"Look, this is your little ear, nose and mouth, this is your little hand and arm, and this is your little * * (private part), your calf and foot …"

But when teasing little girls, they will say:

"These are your little eyes and ears, your little arms, hands and navel, and your calves and feet …"

At that moment, the girl could not speak or read, but she knew that one part of her body was taboo.

What is more shameful than keeping a certain part of your body secret?

Source: TV series "My Genius Girlfriend"

This is the beginning of our understanding of our female identity, and it is also the beginning of our being concealed and bound.

Based on this, most of the female visitors I met had a kind of gender-specific depression, and I named it "female depression".

They came to me with the same question-"Should I not feel this way?"

Because the education they have experienced is telling them:

You don’t know how you feel.

You know how you feel, but you shouldn’t feel that way.

You can feel it, but you shouldn’t say it.

You have feelings, but your feelings are not important.

These all point to "you shouldn’t" can’t "and" don’t allow ",and all true feelings are erased.

For example, a woman who has been subjected to domestic violence is asking, "Is this my problem?" Before, they would ask: "Is it a domestic violence that I encountered?"

When feelings are blurred, women don’t know if they are hurt, which is very common in daily life.

Source: TV series "My Genius Girlfriend"

The little girl in kindergarten was pigtailed. She cried and she was sad, but the adults told her that "people like you". How can she tell the harm?

The normalized violence experienced by women is based on this.

From feeling physical violence, women are shaped from the inside out.

No one listens to what they say. They have to say a word 300 times, and they have to shout and smash things at the same time, so that someone will realize that women are speaking.

They are abused by domestic violence, and some people will say, "Did you annoy him?" "Just bear it with the family."

Women’s lives are "distorted" and they don’t know how to define their bodies and feelings, thus entering a kind of "spiritual collapse".

Some of them may seem to have a good life, but they will still fall into depression and be unhappy.

The real "step forward"

I heard a visitor say:

"I can’t see the model bloggers who know life, travel and do accounts. They are anxious at first sight. All their photos and videos are telling me that I am not living right."

Of course, I believe that there must be some women who will be inspired by these role models, so as to "step forward" and do something to make her feel better.

But at the same time, there must be others who feel disciplined, condemned and criticized by these shiny things, but they usually don’t make a sound.

Those voices that are active and make many changes are certainly good, and it has also formed a torrent.

It is also the true feelings and choices of some women that they cannot be pushed to take a step forward.

It’s just that there are too few voices encouraging women to tell their true feelings, and they are more asked.

But there is no end to meeting the requirements of the outside world.

Source: TV series "My Genius Girlfriend"

You can imagine a woman who has to deal with many people for a long time and accept the demands of voices from all directions, and these voices are bound to conflict.

Some people told her to be careful, while others told her to be bold.

This incident made her speak cautiously, and that project made her bold.

I think all girls should have heard a saying:You’d better be a civil servant, a doctor and a teacher. ……

This is the requirement of many people for her to be a "wife" in the future.

But on the other hand, women have been educated and gone to college, and they have seen many successful women live in various ways.

They say that a girl’s life is more than that. Don’t just try to be stable, but imagine more possibilities.

And today’s requirements for women are:

You should be a professional woman who takes a step forward and an all-round housewife; It is necessary to bear all responsibilities, but also to be emotionally stable and quiet.

There is a tear between the left and right everywhere.

Her self is shaking more and more in these tears, shaking to a certain extent, and it is broken.

The next step may be to become depressed.

That’s why I’m so wary of "step forward", of orders packaged as proposals, and of what should be hidden behind suggestions.

I don’t think it is necessary for women to live an independent, beautiful and successful life if they really take a step forward.

But you firmly believe that you are right no matter what you choose, you must have your reasons, and you have the right to go back on your word after you choose.

This "step forward" is a person’s subjectivity and interpretation right, and does not let liberation become a new bundle.

Source: TV series "My Genius Girlfriend"

There is violence, distortion and deception around us. I also have great anger at the world and want to do something that I think is right.

For example, when I saw a man urinating on the side of the road, I stopped him. Even when I did this for the first time, I was ready to fight, but after stopping him, it was really cool.

Of course, sometimes I just don’t want to get high. Today, I feel that I don’t love the world, and it’s not worth doing any construction here, so I choose to ruin it and do nothing.

The point is, I know I made the right choice.

Some time ago, there were several violent incidents against women. Like my visitors, I was inevitably angry and disappointed, as if I had been touched by all the traumatic experiences in the past.

During the most sad "beating incident", during the 20-minute break between each consultation, I would open the video of President Zhang Guimei’s examination submission for a while.

I saw her doing the same thing day after day, sending the girls out of the mountains, but the fate of the girls who took the college entrance examination was different.

Source: People’s Daily

But more often I will remind myself:I’m fine. I don’t have to be perfect.

As women, we are not destroyed by those cruel things, which is something we should be proud of forever.

There will never be a correct and successful answer to women’s way forward.

Remember, taking a step forward is to get back your rights, which is your choice and always right.

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